Bad friendships.
May 12 2023 · Ryan Walpole
It seems to be the year of cutting toxic or inconsiderate people out of your life, at least, it is for me. In December I cut ties with a friend of many years because of their toxic attitude and attention seeking. It hurt but it was necessary to do, I just couldn't sit by and watch all the bullshit unfold. I'd call her out on her shitty behaviour and it was never "oh, I'm sorry, I handled it wrong" or anything of the sort. It was either "wow I am just awful, I'll go fuck myself" or they'd create some excuse for it! We all knew what she was doing, and she had the audacity to make up some half assed excuse. I couldn't sit through that anymore.
After that, I spent months in pure bliss. Things were just... simple. Easy. I didn't have to stress about the next outburst. I don't regret for a second the decision that I made in cutting that person from my life.
Cue late April. A friend of mine who I've known just as long as my aforementioned friend just continues a string of inconsiderate behaviour - much of it not directed at myself, admittadly. Trying to talk to them was like trying to talk to a brick wall. For a little context, this person was invited to play a game with some of us and was even given some money to help pay for the game so they could join. They then proceeded to just, not show up. It's always "I don't want to" or "I'm not in the mood" - but then they expect everyone to just be around for any games they want to play.
I'm not saying you have to play a game if you don't want to, but it's mighty convenient that you're only ever keen on playing whatever game is your flavour of the month... Reminds me of the time you missed your "best friend"'s phasmophobia birthday game night because (to me) five minutes before we were scheduled to start that you were too tired... and (to the birthday girl) you claimed to have drained your social battery.
The irony then when just a mere ten minutes after we started the game, up pops the notification.. you're playing Valorant.. two voice channels above us... with three other people.
And now, after you crack the shits when you get called out and just storm out without any self reflection, you're out here tweeting that you hope the truth comes out because you've heard a mutual friend talk shit about me behind my back. It'll be a funny day when you realise that I know exactly what was said behind my back. All of it was fair criticism, things I knew deep down I had done wrong and things I've apologised for. Can't say the same about you. Leave the community after someone calls you out for your shitty behaviour. block me on everything despite me not being the one that called you out. You can't even see where you've been a bad friend or apologise for it.
The reality is, since these people have kindly (or not so kindly) exited my life things have improved. On that note...
Mew and I joined a Red Dead Redemption roleplay server, where we've been playing and meeting people all week. It's been a unique experience, playing a character. We've made so many friends of varying personalities, picked tobacco and apples for real life hours to make some coin, bought horses named Rhodes and Noble.. It's been incredible, and in the words of Mew...
Find yourself a friend that will opt in to do something with you that makes you scared/excited instead of a “friend” that never has time for you because you don’t fit their preferred game of the month.
Until next time.
Rant over.